Let's Get Kinky!
So I’ve been wondering about your kinks. No, seriously. But first a little background. QAF was my first fandom. In fact, I had never heard of fandom until the end of 213 sent me searching the internet for reassurances about Justin’s fate. QAF was also my only fandom for a long time. But eventually my need for reading material outpaced QAF’s production, and I drifted into other fandoms. Currently, I’m active in a few and a reading lurker in several. Basically, I’m a slash whore.
The point of this is while reading in multiple fandoms, I noticed some treads in kinks that made me wonder if fandoms form kinks or if your kinks draw you to certain fandoms> The sexual version of the age old chicken or egg dilemma. It all started with rimming. I love rimming. Nothing turns me on like a well-written rimming scene. QAF is a great rimming fandom, but others I read in have little or no rimming in them. One fandom actually requires a warning for rimming! I prefer to think of it as an enticement. On the other hand many of these same fandoms are full of stories featuring BSDM, D/s, breath play, blood play, non con, etc, something there is very little of in QAF (not counting the wave of post S2 punish Justin fics which I do not).
So I started to wonder how much of this is related to the uniqueness of QAF. This is only fandom I know with a m/m couple that has not only a canon relationship, but canon sex. The other fandoms I read involve non-canon pairings. (I know many of you have strong feelings about the slashing of non-canon pairings, but please don’t bring that debate here. As it’s been said before, this is really all about sex). Initially I figured, I loved rimming because I’ve seen 101, I know how hot it is. And I assumed QAF writers stay away from rough sex because we have never seen Brian and Justin engaging in it. Along those same lines, while I don’t particularly care for public sex, it is canon for Brian and Justin. So I have written it, and I do expect to see it in a certain percentage of stories I read.
But I think that is too simplistic. For instance many stories I’ve read that predate QAF include some excellent rimming scenes. And I find BSDM in pairings that I can’t imagine ever engaging in it. So share your experience with me. If you had fandoms before QAF, did viewing the sex on QAF change your kinks? Do you have fandom specific kinks? (Love rimming in QAF but hate in another fandom) Do you notice the same trends I do? And how do you explain them? Have you seen any changes in overall fandom kinks since QAF?
How much does what you saw on screen influence your kinks? Do you expect the sex you read and write to stay within the parameters of what was shown in QAF? Is that more important to you than the sex appealing to your personal kinks? Are there kinks you would like to see more of that don’t fall into QAF canon?
And if you find these questions boring or too much work, feel free to just tell me about your reading and writing kinks. Visuals are encouraged. I am not technologically inclined enough to provide proof of just how hot rimming can, but if any one would like to illustrate that in the comments, I would be very happy!