well, assuming i keep it the same, i have it that the family moved to la when she was 12, so he would have been, what? 18 at that point. but then i'm going to say she moved back to nyc for college, so she was gone about 6 years. maybe they fell out and then some point in the last couple years they ran into each other again and were just kind of like, "wow, you're not a kid anymore" to each other?