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Aslan 🌿 Aditi (raabta) wrote in marluna,
@ 2022-03-11 14:02:00

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character: aslan ulusoy, player: mikey, type: network

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[DM: Eli]

I have a question.

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	Asli raabta 2022-03-11 09:08 pm UTC (link)
	These islands can be an expensive place to live. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli nylonelyboy 2022-03-11 09:10 pm UTC (link)
	That is the crazy thing. He recently came into money and just works because he wants to. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli raabta 2022-03-11 09:13 pm UTC (link)
	Maybe it's just all he knows how to do now. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli nylonelyboy 2022-03-11 09:15 pm UTC (link)
	He worries about everyone but himself. You know the book the Giving Tree? That's him. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli raabta 2022-03-11 09:17 pm UTC (link)
	My brother has always been this way, since our parents left us. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli nylonelyboy 2022-03-11 09:21 pm UTC (link)
	Oh, that really sucks ~~That's like before and your siblings~~ I think people who feel like they lost control sometimes respond with being overly altruistic. Not that I'm complaining. He's such a great guy. I just don't want him to burn out. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli raabta 2022-03-11 09:22 pm UTC (link)
	There is, too, a selfishness inherent in selflessness. It is not as admirable as people like to think. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli nylonelyboy 2022-03-11 09:24 pm UTC (link)
	Why do you say that (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli raabta 2022-03-11 09:25 pm UTC (link)
	If you consider the past and the present for long enough, you will grasp it. But stop praising him for it. You will only keep the bar of expectation so high that he cannot rest. And when there is a price to be paid for it, it won't be him who actually pays it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli nylonelyboy 2022-03-11 09:28 pm UTC (link)
	What does that mean? I do not praise him for it. In fact I try to get him to not work as hard and take time for himself. Are you saying you paid for you brother's selflessness? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Asli

raabta
2022-03-11 09:40 pm UTC (link)

Everyone pays for someone who is selfless, Eli. Neither way is good. Being only selfish or only selfless.

You are praising him to me for it now. If that is how you are thinking of it, consider that you may not be aware of how you are treating it in his presence. You must be extra aware if you want to avoid that pitfall.

Think of it this way. Imagine that you could train a dog to never urinate. You tell the dog it is so good, because it never relieves itself. But it was supposed to do that, and so its body cannot function, and it dies. The dog did everything right, did it not? The dog wanted to please you, selflessly, and learned to do something harmful for it. It fulfilled its role, being so perfectly selfless it died... But now who lives with the fact that the dog is gone? Does the dog now suffer because it has left this life? Or does the one who loved it suffer?

Who can really be happy to watch someone they love give away pieces of their happiness? Who can be happy knowing someone they love is going without? And what person can really believe they have no effect on the people around them?

Not considering what you will leave behind is the most selfish part of selflessness.

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	Asli nylonelyboy 2022-03-11 09:43 pm UTC (link)
	~~You never seen~~ I know !. I really don't want him to burn himself out. And I remind him of this. I'm really sorry you were left behind. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli raabta 2022-03-11 09:45 pm UTC (link)
	Just remember that humans are also animals. What you feed is what will grow. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli nylonelyboy 2022-03-11 11:06 pm UTC (link)
	I will feed him love. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Asli raabta 2022-03-11 11:43 pm UTC (link)
	Okay. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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