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Tweak says, "Who ya gonna call?"

Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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notamasochist
2013-10-26 11:41 pm UTC (link)

[He's a little irritated at her words, not angry but just chafted at her reaction. His hands actually reach out and pull her arms away from her body, refusing to allow her to turn this all inward like she's trying to.]

Shouldn't those be my lines? There are thousands of things you've done for me--so saying you don't understand why...I've done nothing for you. So I can't understand how after a year absence there are all these new feelings from you.

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trappedinresin
2013-10-27 10:47 am UTC (link)

You made me a stronger person. I was always happy by you.

[Only two of many reasons. The list can extend a mile wide and then some.]

I depended on Zero for everything. I always took for granted that I would have you to rely on. Whenever I felt scared or lost, it was... always easy to go to you. Because you listened, but didn't judge. And... even if I was mistaken on some parts, I had always thought we were the same.

[A weak smile]

That we both lost a lot, but because of those losses we could understand one another, too. I thought because of everything, we could always be there for one another. And I cherished that. But I-- because of all of that, I used you a lot, too.

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notamasochist
2013-11-12 10:15 am UTC (link)

Without Yuuki, I wouldn't be here.

[Don't you understand that? That's something he can't ever repay, no matter how hard he tries. Especially because he hurt her greatly in their parting. The damage of that is something he's not sure how to heal. Trust was broken irrepairably and their relationship just hasn't been the same.]

You were supposed to be fine when you left. I made mistakes. Said things I can't ever take back. Ruined everything we had because of my own issues. I know the things I said hurt you but--when you left you said it was only his blood you desired.

That wasn't the case on your return. Things had changed.

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	trappedinresin 2013-11-24 07:11 pm UTC (link)
	[Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Who can say, in the end. She doesn't really understand her own feelings. That's half the problem. But what she says to him is genuinely sincere.] I know. I realize that. Even... back then I somehow knew that Zero only ever wanted me to be happy. [She smiles weakly.] But that too... had been part of the problem. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-11-25 10:30 pm UTC (link)
	[He knows. Believe him, he knows all that.] You weren't. [So don't fault him for trying to change that now. He doesn't give a crap about that other person and his issues. You are the one that matters.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-11-30 02:28 am UTC (link)
	Sometimes I don't know how you can say that and believe it. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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