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Sam Winchester ([info]tallerthanthou) wrote in [info]marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]


How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?


[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]


Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?


(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)


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[info]pushedback
2013-09-27 08:13 pm UTC (link)
I don't know... touching isn't everything. We make due. If he hadn't been the one to do it, we probably never would've seen each other again so I should count myself so lucky.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-09-27 10:06 pm UTC (link)
I suppose that's something, then. You're very lucky, to have someone who cares about you that much.

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[info]pushedback
2013-09-28 03:55 pm UTC (link)
Yeah... the luckiest. [ Even so, there's clearly something more on her mind. ]

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-09-29 08:57 am UTC (link)
... Or not?

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[info]pushedback
2013-09-30 06:40 pm UTC (link)
[ She waves her hand a little aimlessly, as if trying to physically brush away the subject. ] It's nothing. Just something I learned before I arrived here.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-01 07:33 am UTC (link)
Do you mind if I ask what?

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-02 06:07 pm UTC (link)
[ She draws a breath. It's something she still has to come to terms with, but... maybe talking about it will make it easier to do so. ]

Ned was just a kid when he got the gift. He didn't know how it worked... how could he, you know? And then one day... his mom died. Just like that. He touched her and brought her back, everything was fine... [ She pauses. Swallows. ]

A minute later, my dad died. He killed him.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-04 07:45 am UTC (link)
Oh. [That seems like an inadequate response but for a moment its all he can manage before he tries again and comes up with.] I'm so sorry.

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-06 05:35 pm UTC (link)
[ She musters up a little bit of a humorless smile. ] It was a long time ago. Ages.

[ But it doesn't make it any less raw, any less sore. She lost her dad, the only parent she ever had. Her aunts are great and she loves them with her entire being, but they can't replace a parent. ]

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-06 08:50 pm UTC (link)
[The unexpected honesty of the day kicks in; he doesn't usually tell people this.]

Jack killed my girlfriend. He shot her. Granted she was partially converted to a Cyberman and it wasn't really her anymore, but that wasn't how I saw it at the time. Sometimes it still hurts to think about, but if you care about someone enough and you know they didn't really want to do what they did, I don't know. You don't forget it, exactly, but I can understand why, and it makes it easier.

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-07 07:20 pm UTC (link)
[ She nods. He has a point but it's hard to swallow, no matter how much she tries so she shifts a little closer to gently lean against him. Physical contact is so important, even more so when you haven't had all that much of it. ]

I just wish I could talk to him... actually, most of all I wish he would've told me. We've been living together for months and all this time... [ She lets the sentence trail off, gently shifting the focus of the conversation. ] I'm sorry about your girlfriend.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-08 08:21 am UTC (link)
[He accepts the comment about Lisa with a little nod but doesn't say anything more. The point of the story hadn't been to talk about her, not really.]

How would you have reacted, if he had told you?

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-08 05:33 pm UTC (link)
I don't know. Maybe it wouldn't have been so different. [ She gives a little noise that could've been mistaken for amused if it wasn't so lacking in humor. ] I think I still would've hated him a little, but at least then he wouldn't have lied to me.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-09 08:05 am UTC (link)
I'd say he was only trying to protect you, but I suppose you know that. Maybe he just thought he was doing the right thing.

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-10 04:48 pm UTC (link)
That sounds like Ned alright... what did he think that would accomplish, though? Did he really think I'd never find out? We'd just be together forever and he'd keep on lying to me?

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-13 07:50 am UTC (link)
Maybe it was more of a hope that you would never find out than anything else. Or maybe he thought he was protecting you?

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-13 06:41 pm UTC (link)
Yeah... you're probably right. [ She musters up a small smile and then does what she can to change the topic. Well. Shift it. ] So... Jack. Is he your ideal partner?

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-14 11:35 pm UTC (link)
I don't really know how to answer that. [He sounds awkward. Stumped.] We don't ever talk about our relationship that way. I think so. I'd say he's perfect but his ego doesn't need that. I suppose we just fit well together. I don't think I could ever say any of that to him though, and I doubt he would appreciate hearing it.

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-17 01:55 pm UTC (link)
[ Nodding. ] I think that's the best you can ask for, really. I mean, what is an ideal partner supposed to be anyway? No relationship's perfect, but as long as it's good for you... you just have to deal with everything else.

That's what being in love is all about, if you ask me.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-18 06:56 pm UTC (link)
What about you and Ned? Ideal partner, aside from, you know, the death thing?

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-20 12:40 pm UTC (link)
I think so, yeah. Pretty close, at least. I've been in love with him since I was eight, so that must count for something...

He's the only one. He's always been the only one.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-21 10:41 am UTC (link)
Yes, I imagine that does count for something. Was it love at first sight on the swing set, or something like that?

I don't know if Jack's the only one, more like he's the right one, or the one I'm supposed to be with right now. I've never been sure where I stand on the whole one true love thing.

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-21 04:07 pm UTC (link)
It's different for different people, I'd guess. I'm not saying that I can't ever fall in love with someone else, but so far... there's only Ned. We grew up together. Used to play all the time and when my dad and his mom died, we kissed at the funeral. Our only kiss.

He moved away after that.

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[info]readystopwatch
2013-10-24 07:49 am UTC (link)
[Well that's an interesting mix of sweet and depressing.]

And did you ever see him again after he moved, or was bringing you back the first time?

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[info]pushedback
2013-10-24 08:37 am UTC (link)
[ Shakes her head. ] That was the first time. I thought about him a lot though. All the time.

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