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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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	schway 2013-09-26 04:00 am UTC (link)
	I really want it to work, though. I just have responsibilities that get in the way. That I can't tell her about. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-09-26 06:32 am UTC (link)
	Secrets always make relationships more complicated. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-09-27 03:14 am UTC (link)
	Yeah. I keep them to protect her, but... [He shrugs.] It's still pretty complicated. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-09-27 04:40 am UTC (link)
	At what point does protecting her end up hurting her though? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-09-27 05:12 am UTC (link)
	If you want a particular point, I can't answer that, but... it was a while ago. I'm not gonna act like it hasn't hurt her. A lot. But I'd rather she think I don't care about her than be dead. So that's how it has to be. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-09-27 06:26 am UTC (link)
	And what about what she wants? It seems like you're the one making all the decisions. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-09-27 09:39 am UTC (link)
	The decision is whether or not to tell her what I do. I could ask what she thinks, but not until it's already been made. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-09-27 06:08 pm UTC (link)
	Of course. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-09-30 05:25 am UTC (link)
	I take it you don't approve? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-09-30 07:48 am UTC (link)
	I've had people try to protect me, lie to me for my supposed own good. It's not fun to be on the recieving end. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-09-30 08:15 am UTC (link)
	The last guy who found about me got kidnapped by half-snake terrorists. I don't think that'd be very fun for Dana either. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-10-01 02:27 am UTC (link)
	Tell me, does her not knowing keep her from getting hurt? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-10-02 07:56 am UTC (link)
	[He's quiet for a few seconds, contemplating that.] No. It doesn't. But it keeps her from being a target. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-10-03 06:48 am UTC (link)
	Until someone figures out what she is to you and she doesn't know to prepare for it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-10-04 08:47 am UTC (link)
	Until that, yeah. But what else am I supposed to do? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-10-04 09:01 am UTC (link)
	Tell her the truth? It's better people know what danger they're in. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-10-04 10:02 am UTC (link)
	It's better they not be IN danger. ...Which is not a real option unless I break up with her. And I've tried that. It didn't work. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	easily 2013-10-05 04:52 am UTC (link)
	Guessing she doesn't take that well either. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	schway 2013-10-05 07:01 am UTC (link)
	People rarely do. I dunno, the last guy who did this, my mentor [well, kind of mentor, kind of boss] he just pushed everyone away. Every time someone got close. Maybe it'd be safer if I did that too. But it would seriously suck. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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