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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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	trappedinresin 2013-09-23 10:39 pm UTC (link)
	[It shows. She's noticed of course. It would have been difficult not to. But it's his words that cause her to pause. Eyes widen in surprise. He's never... not until now, those words... Her fingers gently curl back into his shirt, tighter than before.] I... [ Heart racing, her mouth suddenly feels dry. Zero... ] I love you. I love you too, Zero... (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notamasochist
2013-09-23 11:23 pm UTC (link)

[He actually didn't realize what he said until the minor reactions she made alerted him to her surprise. It hadn't been intentional, those words. Her own response is out before he can get the hand over her mouth. There were reasons he hadn't said them before--so maybe he really did belong in this group still.]

You don't--there isn't--I know. You don't have to say it until you're ready.

[He hadn't intended to let it slip out of his mouth until he was feeling a little more confident in where she was at in their relationship.]

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trappedinresin
2013-09-24 07:39 am UTC (link)

[Her eyes widen further as his hand suddenly lifts to cover her mouth. Surprised, she blinks up at him. Ah...? Quiet, she watches him without comment for a moment, before her own fingers lift to gently remove his hand from her.]

That isn't... something Zero needs to worry about. Although maybe I hadn't voiced it, long before now, I already admitted it to myself.

[Has been upset over, even. But she isn't afraid to admit it to him, and to be honest with her feelings in this regard.]

I've always loved Zero. In the past I maybe hadn't recognized it right away, but... that isn't like now.

[A small smile]

I love Zero.

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notamasochist
2013-09-24 10:25 am UTC (link)

[There is always this shadow over everything that he can't ignore though. He tries to put it out of his mind and can usually be successful, but there is a reason he's never said those words to her.]

I know you do.

[But he also knows there will always be another.]

I know I'm not one that says those words often, I'd rather just...show you. I know I'm working more on saying what it is I want, but this is different. Actions are a lot more proof than words to me.

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trappedinresin
2013-09-24 08:27 pm UTC (link)

It was a little surprising to hear Zero say it... [Hands lifting with a smile] Not a bad one of course. I... like both, I like to know that I am cared about.

[A little quiet.]

Zero has... always been honest with me. [While he may have hidden things about himself, he doesn't lie.]

One of the things I've always appreciated is that if you tell me something, I don't worry or doubt that you've told me the truth. Zero would not deceive me. Especially... in an instance like this.

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	notamasochist 2013-09-25 09:55 pm UTC (link)
	[He's not entirely sure about that. He doesn't feel like he's not lied over the past two years. Omissions. Threats. Saying things to protect himself. Hiding from his own emotions.] It's the things I don't say or lie to myself about... (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

trappedinresin
2013-09-25 10:01 pm UTC (link)

Everyone does that though, don't they...?

[And not as a means of hurting others. Sometimes it's all a person can do to deal.]

I was surprised... and a little upset when I realized Zero was a vampire, all that time ago. But I... knew that it was because it wasn't an easy subject for Zero. It was something you'd struggled with for a long time.

[Shaking her head]

I was upset that I hadn't been able to realize, and be there for Zero before then.

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	notamasochist 2013-09-25 10:14 pm UTC (link)
	Some people just do it more than others. Not letting anyone in or sharing anything, it just caused you to worry more back then. I was trying to protect myself--and only myself. I didn't understand how it affected you. [Sometimes it's to not hurt the other.] I did actually try to tell you once. Back in the beginning. But because of your own situation I couldn't (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-25 10:21 pm UTC (link)
	Ah? [Tell her? When? Eyes widening she stares at him, brows knit.] I can't think of a time... (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notamasochist
2013-09-25 11:18 pm UTC (link)

[There's a hand sliding down his face, a sign of mental stress for him, but he still manages to force the words out. With difficulty.]

Everything hit all at once because I was being stupid. I'd kind of been in denial before it all. I pretty much had everything coming at me from all sides.

[Figuring out how to explain it gives him pause, difficult to put things in order within his head. What information was important and what wasn't. He knows he's probably not making any sense.]

I got this to help control my bloodlust. [Hand sliding along the left side of his neck, over the place he'd originally been bitten by Shizuka his tattoo remains.] You'd bled and--

My neck had healed where I'd been ripping into it. It was like the first definite proof of what I'd become. Before that I could at least-in my head-pretend it really hadn't happened. But when I removed that bandage and saw that it had almost entirely healed-I don't know...something just snapped. I attacked my reflection, shattering the mirror that day.

[He just shrugs gently, as if trying to brush off the impact these moments had on his life.]

Then you came in all worried and I lashed out at you, the glass cutting up your hand. You bled and it was different than the scent of any other blood. I wanted it. More than I wanted anything--I wanted that.

I started to tell you when I came in to apologize when you said you'd been scared. "Almost as scared as when you were attacked by that scary vampire," you said.

But it wasn't just your own fears you acknowledged. You accepted that. You accepted the way I could never forgive them. And I needed that. I needed that place you offered me because I was terrified. I knew I was turning into the very thing that had scared you so badly-but I couldn't tell you because I was so scared...

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