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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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	cbsniper_v2 2013-09-19 08:51 pm UTC (link)
	No, I don't think they are stupid! [Forgive him. He gets defensive when put it an uncomfortable position... though that's not going to last much longer] Why do we have to answer all these stupid questions about them? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-09-20 05:38 pm UTC (link)
	Because talking lets you dig out all those nasty little hairballs from the shower drain of your soul and then you can breathe easier without all those lies and secrets weighing down on you like a wet, cold rag of old hair. The world would be a much happier place if people would just talk. [ Yeah, she's here for a very good reason. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Sorry, I snickered cbsniper_v2 2013-09-20 09:24 pm UTC (link)
	[Wait... what? What the heck was that analogy she came up with? That sounded like there should be something wrong about that] Uh... sure... (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	As intended! pushedback 2013-09-24 02:45 pm UTC (link)
	[ Wrong answer, young man. ] Don't you agree? God, what is wrong with all you guys and not wanting to talk?! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-09-24 07:51 pm UTC (link)
	Not wanting to talk? What about being forced to talk about it? Fine you want to know that badly? It asked about soul mates. Yeah, I met her and I watched her die. Is that better?! [Maybe not the answer you were expecting there... It does at least explain why he is bitter at the moment] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-09-25 01:07 pm UTC (link)
	Yes! At least now you're talking to me! I died and now I can't ever touch the boy I love. I can just watch him and kiss through plastic wrap and never ever touch him! It sucks but at least we both got to experience something good in all the bad. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-09-25 07:16 pm UTC (link)
	[That deflates him a little bit there] Oh... I am sorry to hear that. No one should have to do that. I can't imagine what that would be like. But it makes me question having one again. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-09-26 06:00 pm UTC (link)
	Let me ask you something... were you happy with her? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-09-26 07:49 pm UTC (link)
	I was. Very happy. I loved her. [He quiet a moment then said] She was here for a time then they took her away again. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-09-27 05:24 pm UTC (link)
	I'm sorry. [ Softer now that they've gotten started. ] I don't think losing the person you love should stop you from loving. That's just sad. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-09-27 10:32 pm UTC (link)
	I haven't stopped, I assure you. There's someone here I like, but... I feel like I am second guessing myself. Watched the woman I loved die and then she was here and I lost her again. I don't want to lose someone again. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-09-28 04:46 pm UTC (link)
	I can understand that, but at the same time... isn't it worse, watching someone you want to be with and not take that step? Even if it's not exactly the way you want it? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-09-28 08:41 pm UTC (link)
	I guess it is worse. But that thought will always be there. The "what if she leaves too". I've lost everyone and if I lose her is not in my control. She shouldn't have to carry the weight of my problems. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-09-30 06:35 pm UTC (link)
	But that's what you do when you love someone. You carry their problems and they carry yours and somehow, that makes it all that much lighter. You can overcome anything if you're with the one you love, no matter how hard that might be. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-09-30 08:05 pm UTC (link)
	But the weight of having lost everyone in my life that I care about? Some of them multiple times. I just... it might be too much. It certainly feels like it to me. I am willing to try, but... I don't want to give too much and push her away. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-10-02 05:53 pm UTC (link)
	That's not really for you to decide, is it? If she wants to carry your problems, then that's her choice. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-10-02 07:52 pm UTC (link)
	I... I guess you are right. If she wants to, then I should trust she can. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-10-06 05:14 pm UTC (link)
	That's better. It's good to know that you're not the kind of guy who goes around deciding what's best for his girl. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-10-06 08:41 pm UTC (link)
	No, I don't want to be that kind of person. I just don't want to pressure her into something she can't take. I guess I'm not giving her enough credit. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-10-08 06:22 pm UTC (link)
	Doesn't that sound familiar. [ But let's not go there. ] So who's the lucky gal? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-10-08 07:44 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah I guess so. Her name's Yvaine. Have you met her? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-10-13 10:42 am UTC (link)
	Not yet! I haven't been here all that long though, so I'm sure I will. What does she look like? So I can keep an eye out for her, I mean. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cbsniper_v2 2013-10-13 12:22 pm UTC (link)
	She has long blond hair either worn up or down. A very bright personality. [Which is a little ironic, but that's more having to know what she is] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pushedback 2013-10-17 01:15 pm UTC (link)
	She sounds very pretty. I'm really happy for the both of you. Not everyone is lucky enough to find someone they care about like that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)