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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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	lifelines 2013-09-18 10:16 pm UTC (link)
	I doubt we may ever find out why we're all here. It might be best not to even try. [ except she knows well why she's here. perfectly well. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notamasochist
2013-09-23 09:24 pm UTC (link)

Yet, we'll still all wonder what we're doing wrong.

[He takes out another question just for fun because he has come so far.]

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

Nothing...it's not my hair. What kind of control freak actually cares what their partner's hair looks like enough to comment on it if they dislike it? [His girlfriend's fiance for one...not that he knows that.] She could shave her head and all that matters is she likes it.

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lifelines
2013-09-25 07:26 pm UTC (link)

Indeed.

[ her eyebrows slide upwards at this. ]

It certainly isn't my place to tell my partner whether or not he or she should do anything with their hair. As you said, it's their hair, not mine.

[ not counting the fact that her romantic interest here doesn't have enough hair to really mess with and she actually loves that about him. so the point is moot anyway. ]

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notamasochist
2013-09-25 09:23 pm UTC (link)

[While his romantic interest can't keep a style without occasionally chopping it off and regrowing it. Sometimes overnight.]

It annoys me to see people trying to change themselves to fit what others want them to be.

[Someone's been in the refreshments.]

Someone who enjoys running around and comfortable clothing shouldn't be wearing tailored shirts and heels. Those aren't the sort of things they'd pick for themselves.

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lifelines
2013-09-26 04:06 pm UTC (link)

[ she completely agrees, which is why she told john off all those decades ago for trying to change their history. he hadn't accepted what had happened and the woman she had become as a result. ]

If you can't love them for who they are, fashion, hair, and everything else, then you don't truly love them. Wanting to change them isn't love. It's obsession.

[ is that bitterness in her voice? yes? oops. ]

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	notamasochist 2013-09-26 05:06 pm UTC (link)
	[Cough. Okay he's not so innocent. Part of what you said described him too.] ...or refusing to love them because of what they are--that's bad too. I don't know enough about their relationship to say one way or the other, I'm not sure I want to know. I just know between what I did and what he did--she's pretty messed up. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lifelines 2013-09-27 11:27 pm UTC (link)
	Indeed. It sounds as though she needs a stable and loving relationship. [ at least admitting it is a good start. she won't judge too harshly yet. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-09-28 02:46 am UTC (link)
	That's my plan right now. At least here. The opportunity has probably passed back home and the way things were going--there's almost no chance for us. [But he's trying. The amends he's making are substantial and hopefully enough to ease her pain. Not that he's trying to fix her, just give her a place where she feels secure. The rest should come in time.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lifelines 2013-09-28 11:45 am UTC (link)
	Sometimes it's best to make the best of the situation, whatever it is. Even if you might not have a chance back home, the fact that you have one here is important. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-09-28 11:40 pm UTC (link)
	I have to keep reminding her of that when she gets overwhelmed with the guilt for erasing my memories of her. (Reply to this) (Parent)

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