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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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[at the end of group time so I don't have to write a post? :D]

fields_of_hope
2013-09-18 03:00 pm UTC (link)

[It's the end of forced therapy time. Many tainted cups of tea have been drunk and there's all sorts of truthfulness in anyone who partook of the refreshments.]

[Lacus finds Sougo just after the groups are dismissed, and wastes no time attaching herself to his arm. She has not enjoyed this little exercise and didn't feel as much like faking it as she typically does. There are still silver linings, but she's not ignoring the dark clouds for a change.] Finally! I thought we'd have to do this all day.

I'm happy to see you, though! [She says while leaning against his shoulder.]

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	[you know this since I already said it, but SOUNDS GOOD! 8) ] sadistfaction 2013-09-18 09:20 pm UTC (link)
	I'm happy to see you too. [He sighs and runs a hand through his hair.] That was lame. I don't think I've done that much talking since... probably my entire time in the prison so far. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-18 10:10 pm UTC (link)
	[Lacus looks surprised as she glances up at him, then she makes a sound of disappointment and... pouts a little. Very un-Lacus.] You were talking that much and I missed it? That's very unfair. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-18 10:21 pm UTC (link)
	[There's a chuckle at that. She's so silly.] I was in... [He thinks about his day and counts the number of sessions he attended on his fingers.] 5 sessions. If I'm not fixed tomorrow, I'm suing someone. [No such thing as a day without being dramatic!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-18 10:26 pm UTC (link)
	Five? Oh, my. [And she's back to grinning up at him.] I had quite an easy time sharing things today, even things I didn't think I wanted to talk about. What about you? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

sadistfaction
2013-09-18 10:49 pm UTC (link)

[He gives her a look, positive that she knows what the answer to that question will be.

Not that he isn't going to answer anyway!]

No and yes... In the beginning, definitely not. I guess I got more comfortable as each session went on.

[He puts a hand on his chest.] I'm still pissed off about all this on the inside, though. Don't be fooled by how... surprisingly not pissed off I am on the outside.

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	fields_of_hope 2013-09-18 10:51 pm UTC (link)
	Ah. [This is where she'd normally continue to express interest in his experience, but the truth must come out!] I cancelled my license with Tyki today. [She lifts her hand. See, red!] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-18 11:03 pm UTC (link)
	[A headtilt at that, unsure of what to make of it.] What does that mean? He won't come around trying to get up your skirts anymore? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-18 11:04 pm UTC (link)
	Hmm. I suppose I can't promise that, but I would assume so. He didn't argue with me when I suggested going our separate ways. Aren't you happy? I thought you would like it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-18 11:18 pm UTC (link)
	It's an improvement, if only because I don't trust that guy. [He pats her on the arm she is latching onto him with.] I don't mean to sound like a gossipy bitch, but you are way too good for him! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 08:12 pm UTC (link)
	[They've been over this; Sougo seems to hold her on a pedestal when it comes to who she should... what did he call it? Be "shipped" with.] I thought you didn't trust most anyone. Does that mean you'll have a problem with anyone I might be with? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 08:33 pm UTC (link)
	You bet, even if I don't tell you to your face. [He holds up an index finger.] The only nice guy around here is Aidan, and he's already got his own weird goblin buttfucking thing going on. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 08:54 pm UTC (link)
	[She giggles at the description. Later she'll feel really bad about that.] So, you wish for me to be alone? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 09:04 pm UTC (link)
	Don't say that like it's the only other option! [Huff puff!] I just don't want you to be with assholes, that's all. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 09:15 pm UTC (link)
	[A little squeeze of his arm for reassurance. Nothing to huff over!] I like that you want to protect me. I don't want to be with people like Tyki, either. I was terribly lonely, and it got the best of me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 09:23 pm UTC (link)
	That seems to be the way. Girls always go for the wrong guys... Not that I know all that many, but I've seen it a lot as a cop, and it happens in movies and TV for a reason. [A sage nod.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 09:31 pm UTC (link)
	I don't always go for the wrong type. [A tiny bit indignant, Kira is hardly a bad guy!] I'm living with you, aren't I? And I don't want to hear how you're a bad one too, because I'll never believe it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 09:35 pm UTC (link)
	I wasn't gonna say it, because I already knew you expected me to say it. [He nods.] So I can't do the predictable thing and say it. [And of course he feels this whole day must mean something.] I am the guy who had to go to 5 or so therapy sessions today, after all. Definitely a sane and trustworthy kind of guy. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 09:38 pm UTC (link)
	No, of course not. [She holds even tighter to his arm.] You should know that I love you for who you are, faults and all. Besides, maybe I like that you need me a little. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 09:44 pm UTC (link)
	A little. [He repeats that. It's the most important part of what she said.] I think you overestimate me. [Yes, over.] You always think I'm greater than I actually am. You hold me way too high on your pedestal. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 09:49 pm UTC (link)
	What's wrong with that? You do it to me. [Fair's fair, darling.] ...Why did you repeat the "a little"? Was I mistaken? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:00 pm UTC (link)
	[That is true, and he couldn't deny that. But he still thought she really was that much better off than he could ever be, and he's sure nothing will change his mind.] I just feel that I'm overly needy all the time. I try not to act on it, though. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 10:02 pm UTC (link)
	[A thoughtful hum as she considers this. He is needy, but she can't deny that she likes that. Feeling as though she makes a difference to someone gives her a purpose.] What would you do if you acted on it? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sadistfaction 2013-09-19 10:08 pm UTC (link)
	I don't know. I don't want to be needy. That's the problem. [He puts a hand to his chin.] You know who's needy? Babies. Babies are needy. And need their own ass wiped. I don't want to need someone to wipe my ass all the time. I am capable of wiping my own ass. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	fields_of_hope 2013-09-19 10:15 pm UTC (link)
	[She's used to his strange metaphors by now, so takes it in stride.] Needing someone doesn't make you incapable of anything and everything. We all need someone, sometimes. If you don't want to be needy, then what do you want? [He always says that he wants to be different, but never how.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)