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Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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	notamasochist 2013-09-16 07:32 pm UTC (link)
	[Why is he even here? This is stupid. He grabs an apple from the bar to distract himself before sitting down.] Does not apply. What sort of therapy is this supposed to be? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	tallerthanthou 2013-09-16 07:39 pm UTC (link)
	The really unhelpful kind? [Oh, there is fruit. He hadn't really looked because there were mostly donuts last time. Sam likes healthy food.] I wonder if this is just their way of keeping us out of certain areas. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-09-16 07:45 pm UTC (link)
	[So does Zero. He's not really a glutton about food--unlike other members of the facility. He won't touch the donuts or desserts.] I think they put me in the wrong place. [No. You belong here for other reasons, Zero. LOTS of other reasons.] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	tallerthanthou 2013-09-16 07:48 pm UTC (link)
	There's some other therapy group you think you're missing? [Will it seem sincere if he tries to play it off like he has no idea he is in a group with a definite relationship slant?] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-09-16 07:59 pm UTC (link)
	[He just sighs and grabs another question from the bowl.] Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do? [REALLY? REALLY? That one? He gets that one?] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

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trappedinresin
2013-09-16 08:35 pm UTC (link)

ER...

[ She can't believe the kind of luck they are having. Maybe if she interrupts, first? ]

UM, WELL--! [ Because she already knows the answers to this question for Zero. ]

I would try and show them that I'm not a threat or anything. I kind of already expect people to disapprove, family or not...

[ Oh god the words keep tumbling out ]

Unless you mean relationships at home, and that makes the whole family question moot.

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	2/2 trappedinresin 2013-09-16 08:36 pm UTC (link)
	[ . . . OTL ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-09-16 09:15 pm UTC (link)
	[You could have shut up before all that. But no.] Pretty sure I know from experience that threatening to kill someone sort of--negates the 'relationship' as a potential one. [But more to the point.] It's stupid to try to get their approval. Any of them. None of their opinions matter. Not like I would care what anyone on your side said or thought about me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-09-16 09:52 pm UTC (link)
	[Wha...] I kind of wonder if the majority of the disapproval would come from your side though... [The hunters in general, she means. She scratches a cheek and smiles weakly.] The majority have been looking for an opportunity you know. Any sort of slip up. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-09-16 10:19 pm UTC (link)
	That's my point. Why should you care what any of them thought? It isn't as if they would have any control or say over any of it. [Don't think he didn't see what you did there--avoiding the other issue.] They'll deal with it. They won't like it but they'll deal with it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

trappedinresin
2013-09-18 03:57 pm UTC (link)

I don't care what people think.

[She really doesn't. That's not typically what she worries about.]

But if things were in a position at home where we were in relationship, I wonder if they would really allow it. Headmaster's only a puppet head, isn't he? But does Zero really have authority yet either?

[A genuine question. Not condescending in any way, simply honest. She barely has enough authority to stand up to anything the Hunter's Association says. She can run away, sure. But without the backing of her own society she has little ground to stand on. And technically she's supposed to still be under house arrest, of sorts, by Zero's own group.]

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notamasochist
2013-09-26 12:26 am UTC (link)

You honestly think my side of it would be the worst? I'm a controversial choice for them anyway. There are a lot of members that aren't happy with a vampire being chosen.

[Besides, you're forgetting something. He messes with his headset for a moment, going to his crime list before taking it off and handing it to her.]

You seem to think I'd let them control my choices and not go against their wishes.

[See that word, Yuuki? It says 'treason'.]

I chose to go with you that day, even if I knew it would put the association at risk and not what they wanted.

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	trappedinresin 2013-09-26 10:29 pm UTC (link)
	[Treason...? She blinks, glancing back up at him.] Why... did you follow me? Even though I had kept telling you that you should go back. I'd even tried to sneak out without making a scene. [She tilts her head.] What had you been thinking of during that time? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notamasochist
2013-09-27 01:29 pm UTC (link)

[He frowns, needing time to actually think about it. It wasn't that he hadn't thought about it during the time. He knew she'd try to skip out without him, so he'd been waiting. The issue now is how truthful had he been with himself back then about the real reason.]

I don't know. Stuff like that is sort of difficult to determine in hindsight. Were my reasons just excuses? What part of everything was I lying to myself about?

I had questions for him as well, that wasn't a lie. About myself. About you. About us. About why he did everything he did from the beginning.

Even then, I knew that a large part was just because I knew that emotionally you wouldn't be able to handle it alone. I had suspicions of his intentions for you and wanted to make sure nothing happened.

In the end, a lot had happened leaving me to question who exactly I could trust. Things said to me or done around or to me that I was left feeling like nothing but just a piece everyone was fighting over.

So I guess I chose a team myself where I knew ulterior motives didn't exist, where my existence would make a difference but would never resort to sophistry to obtain.

[Or to put it in more layman's terms.]

You were the only one I could trust and I'd already promised to be the one you could rely on. I didn't want to let you down again.

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	trappedinresin 2013-10-08 05:56 pm UTC (link)
	[The open and honest confession is more than she is expecting. Glancing down she smiles, but it's a bitter expression. In the end, even then he had been trying to protect her. He was tired of being used by the people around him. He had trusted her.] . . . And in the end, I turned out to be like the others. [She's so ashamed.] I destroyed Zero's trust. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-10-08 06:31 pm UTC (link)
	[Hand reaching out, Zero grasps her chin gently with his fingers, lifting her gaze back up to his.] I didn't choose wrong. If I really thought my trust was broken, I wouldn't be here like this right now. I made a lot of mistakes too, you know. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-10-08 06:39 pm UTC (link)
	[Her smile lifts just a little bit.] That just makes us stupid, then? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notamasochist 2013-10-08 10:38 pm UTC (link)
	Is that what you really think? [The question isn't as lighthearted as it might sound. He's genuninely curious on it.] Am I going to regret all this? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	trappedinresin 2013-10-08 10:42 pm UTC (link)
	[Her lashes flutter open wide.] That isn't... [It's not what she meant.] Are you...second guessing? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

notamasochist
2013-10-08 11:29 pm UTC (link)

[His hand drops from her chin in surprise.] Am I...what is there even to second guess for me?

[Don't you understand? It's never been his choice. Ever.]

You can't force something. What I want hasn't changed and won't change. What we are has always been something you've held in your hands. It's static. The only thing that's changed for me is actually telling you what I want.

I can only make myself a choice. I can't actually make the choice for you. I know the risk. I know that everything I have at this moment could just be gone tomorrow. That's the only choice I've been given in all this.