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Tweak says, "I miss our old relationship."

Sam Winchester (tallerthanthou) wrote in marinanova,
@ 2013-09-16 17:49:00

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:mingle, bak chang, bro strider, buffy summers, charlotte charles, daniel osbourne, dirk strider, elena gilbert, helen magnus, hikaru hitachiin, ianto jones, jack harkness, jake english, james watson, jean-luc picard, jessica hamby, lacus clyne, lelouch vi britannia, lyle dylandy, martha jones, miranda lotto, rebekah mikealson, rogue, sam winchester, sookie stackhouse, sougo okita, terry mcginnis, yuuki kuran, zero kiryuu

[Day 237] Relationship Issues Group Therapy mingle
[The relationships group therapy attendees will all get a message telling them to report to The Winery in Sector 2. Sadly for them the alcohol is locked away, but there is an assortment of food and non-alcoholic beverages along the bar for consumption. Many of the tables have been cleared out and the chairs rearranged into a circle with booths along the edges for more intimate therapeutic discussions.

And don't forget the party favors! The wardens have left some helpful games and activity ideas to get them started. There's a bowl full of folded slips of papers with various questions.]

How many people have you slept with? Do you regret any of them? Why?

How many relationships have you been in? Why do you think that is?

What was your longest relationship? Most serious? Shortest? Most casual?

Why did your last relationship end?

What do you look for in another person?

Are you happy?

Who is your ideal mate?

What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?

What do you need out of a relationship? Sexual experience?

How long have you been single between relationships? Why do you think it was so long/short?

What is the best way to break up with someone?

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you think you have or will meet yours?

Would you rather spend your life with one important person or several acquaintances? Why?

Are there any similarities between the people you've been with? If so, what are they?

Do you have trouble making choices? Give examples.

Do you think with your heart, your head, or your genitalia? Are you satisfied with this behavior?

Do you have trouble relating to people? If so, in what way?

[In addition to the questions there are cards with various prompts. One explains the game, I Never. Another suggests people pair off and roleplay they are in a relationship and then deal with various scenarios like what do to if one partner flirts with someone else or comes home late without calling.]

Who should do the dishes?

When is it appropriate to discuss getting blue bands/having sex?

When should you move in together if ever?

What do you do if you suspect the other is keeping secrets?

What do you say if your partner comes home with a haircut you don't like?

How do you respond if you find your partner crying?

How do you decide how to spend your time together?

Your partner's family doesn't like you. What do you do?

One of you is critically hurt. How does the other respond?

Your friends don't like the person you're with. What do you say to them? What do you say to your partner?

One of you wants sexual relations and the other does not. How do you balance your needs?

How do you communicate your desire for a particular sexual desire to your partner?

It is your partner's birthday. How do you prepare?

At a party your partner leaves you to socialize with others. How does this make you feel and how do you respond?

How do you show your affection?

(OOC: Mingle style. You are not limited to the questions, scenarios, or games listed above. Assume there are more! I recycled a lot of this from last time so if someone was in this group twice they can feel free to notice, but assume there are lots of questions and prompts, so they probably didn't see them all.)

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lifelines
2013-09-16 07:19 pm UTC (link)

[ helen settles down, glancing around at everyone who's entering with her. eventually, she picks up a card, her eyebrows shooting to the sky as she reads it aloud. ]

"What was the biggest problem/complication in your previous or current relationship?" I'm supposed to answer this? It's hardly relevant [ except it is because of her whatever it is with jean-luc. ] and highly personal.

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	doesntdamsel 2013-09-16 08:59 pm UTC (link)
	[ Buffy laughs out loud. There's even a snort in there. She's far enough into her cup of coffee that she's not even bothering to fight this. ] I'm pretty sure the biggest complication is the reason we're here. Trust issues they name is Buffy. Or something like that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lifelines 2013-09-16 09:25 pm UTC (link)
	That sounds familiar. Or in my case, drop them before you lose them. [ loss issues: she has them. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	doesntdamsel 2013-09-16 09:41 pm UTC (link)
	Mmmm. I'm not much of a dropper, but I can totally understand the reaction. It's practically logical. [ abandonment issues are a lot like loss issues, aren't they? ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lifelines 2013-09-16 09:49 pm UTC (link)
	[ definitely. with helen they're practically interchangeable. ] It's easier than outliving them. [ ...she's been into the refreshments. this is more than she would usually give. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	doesntdamsel 2013-09-17 08:47 pm UTC (link)
	Oh God. You do not give them the walk in the sunlight, fat babies speech, do you? [ She looks horrified. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lifelines 2013-09-18 10:44 am UTC (link)
	I beg your pardon? [ please explain this to the old victorian woman, buffy. she's not quite following. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

doesntdamsel
2013-09-19 02:53 pm UTC (link)

You know, you deserve more, someone you can grow old with, have a family with, walk in the sunlight with, have picnics with. All of the etceteras.

[ So sorry. ]

Except, you know, it's not like your life destined for that or anything. I mean family? Seriously? I kill my goldfish. Still. Maybe, just maybe, the people you push away have thought of those things before and maybe, just maybe they STILL want to have a relationship with you.

Not that I do. Anymore, but I did for years. I pined and made the worst choices when it came to boys. It's not that I realize the wisdom in all of that now, 'cause if it weren't for the fact that things go literally apocolyptic when we have sex I probably wouldn't have admitted defeat and would still be willing to do the not walking in the sunlight, not family, not growing old, not deserving more thing.

Maybe. The point is, I'm not a little girl and I haven't been for a long time. I would like to have a say in the matter. You know? And I bet the people you push away would too.

[ so so sorry ]

	$Dirk Strider: :\$ smuppeteer 2013-09-17 01:41 am UTC (link)
	[ Dirk is stuffing his face to avoid having to actually communicate with anyone, but at that question, he has to snort into the juice he's drinking. ] (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	smuppeteer 2013-09-17 04:46 pm UTC (link)
	Fuckin' beautiful. [ And then, because he's already eaten a bit more than he should have, ] I'd say probably the fact that I'm an overbearing fuckup who can't stand to loosen the leash for two goddamn seconds so my boyfriend can have some breathing room. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	smuppeteer 2013-09-18 11:00 pm UTC (link)
	Sucks to be your love interest. I wonder if they actually thought we'd accomplish anything here. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lifelines 2013-09-18 11:19 pm UTC (link)
	[ her eyes twitch and she shifts ever so slightly, as though she's trying very hard not to look at someone. a someone on the opposite side of the room named jean-luc picard. ] Under normal circumstances, I suppose so. [ poor jean-luc has no idea what he's getting into. ] I've no idea, but I think they're a bit off their rockers if they did. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)