So, my daughter's been in preschool for little over a week. Already I got a call from her teacher this afternoon asking if I could stay in and talk.
As it happened, my child hit another one in the head. From what I gather, he cried louder and the teacher and the boy's parents think he was only trying to play. whereas Cassie shouted that he hit her first. Both of them wanted to know why I was raising my daughter as a bully and wanted her to apologize.
I explained to them both that under no circumstances is my daughter allowed to be violent, unless someone hits her first. Perhaps this boy was just playing, but he was rough and she still cried from it. Told them she'll only apologize if he did so first.
To his credit, the kid did say he was sorry. His mom just scowled, but I'll take it.
The whole 'if he's mean to you, it means he likes you', has and will always be bullshit. I'm trying to raise my child so she doesn't have to put up with it. The woman's just lucky Cassie didn't bite her kid instead of hitting him-that was something she did until she was two years old.