It's sorta half and half
If anything, I'm more bothered on how Black Widow isn't *angrier* at Maria for all the horrible things she's done for the SHRA and the Civil War.
I agree about the forced penance, but surprisingly, it doesn't do much because I can't take much joy in Maria and Tony suffering. A little satisfaction, perhaps, but not much joy. It's pretty much at the point where I don't care much about either character to hate them.
It's like I pity Maria, but I definitely don't feel sorry for her.