We should all lighten up and not take these things too seriously.
The only problem I have with this, as somebody who admittedly DOES take these things WAY too seriously, one is that it basically holds the audience to a higher standard than the people who are asking to be paid for producing this stuff, because the only reason these retcons and editorial mandates came about in the first place is because Quesada, a former fan himself, decided that a married Spider-Man was such a SERIOUS BUSINESS problem with the character that he's gotten into full-on FLAME WARS with fans over it for the past DECADE, and he undid 20 years of published stories because he couldn't let go of the idea that the character should be how HE remembers him being, even though sales and readership have both plummeted as a result.
Yes, I rant and rave and bitch and moan over the new status quo, but Quesada was the one who justified the new status quo by using his mother's death from cancer as a means of "winning" the argument.
You don't get to pull the My Mom Is Dead From Cancer So I Get To Do What I Want To Mary Jane card, and THEN accuse the FANS of being the ones who need to "lighten up."