Kol | Anna
I didn't know that no. But it sounds pretty much like a demon to me. Making you suffer even when it was sent back to hell. And I'll be honest. Angels generally do it too. I've done it. But unlike demons, we need to ask permission. Its why Sam and Dean were so valuable to my brothers. That body Gabriel has, he asked someone for it, same with Castiel. Someone devout usually, praying for it sometimes, sometimes asked to fulfill holy work. This body though, its mine, got it when I fell. I was born, I lived.
but you're asking more than that. You're asking how I cope?
Truth is , its hard to. Him being what he is. Its against everything I am, and sometimes I don't know if you, if either of you, realise that. I love him, I love both of you, and I'm not asking you to change, just...you both need to see that its hard.
As for you, you need to talk to him, we both do. You went through something awful, and something that he is very capable of doing to anyone, something his demons probably do every day. On his order.
But its a part of him, and you don't just love part of a person. You have to love all of them.