Rebekah
It was a decent dance until it wasn't anymore. Sucks that you didn't get to enjoy it.
Honestly, I think that's what you should do. Make him earn it. When he starts being a giant ass stop having the conversation. Walk away from it. It'll take time but maybe it'll finally stick in his head.
No, you shouldn't. I'd say talk to him about it but I think that would only exacerbate the issue. And he was trying to kill you at home?? What?