But if people aren't given the benefit of the doubt, are they truly being offered another chance? I know there are people who can never forgive the wrongs done to them, like Graham can't forgive Regina for killing him, Kol couldn't forgive the Gilberts for killing him. Mostly they try to ignore their existence. Which you would know if you ever bothered talking to people outside of your immediate group It's the more extreme version of if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. No one expects forgiveness, just the space to be able to do use the new chance.