I don't know if this is a good idea. Because you and I have never not argued.
But in the sprit of your post I'll try.
You said to Marian it's hard to compare five years (as an example) to hundreds? of years of torment. By comparison someone who is say, 25 and had spent five years fighting a pitiful war. That's one fifth of their life facing battle, capture, torture, torment. A shorter life is no less signifigant and the fact that we can be killed but face the same risks you do? Is something worthy of note, I think.
I have said it plenty of times, of course yes I will defend my family first, like you. But I would also do everything in my power to defend everyone else here. Yes, even you. I would never accept Ruby carrying out threats she has made. As I wouldn't with your family.
I for my part am sorry you and I do end up arguing in circles. I don't dislike you, I have no reason to hate most here. I've even made amends with the man who killed my wife.