You're actually attempting not to argue so I will too. And you know it isn't easy for me either even when I'm honest it ends up sarcastic somehow. But anyway.
I barely knew the Gilberts so that one doesn't hold water here. I only judge based off what I've seen. So far what I've seen is you don't care for any of us and we can tell. We aren't blind. I reached out with the olive branch and helped you whether or not my friends liked it or not because it was the right thing to do when you needed help. You made no attempt to care. I don't even care if it's to me or not. I don't care if you like me or not. But it's a two way street.