Then how long, amid the attitude and the threats, do you think it should be before we trust you.
Some did, yes. Personally I didn't get to know Elena well and thought Jeremy was biased. They warned us. I assure you there are people who may arrive here that would warn the city against me. Its happened Loki, its happened Solo, countless others, people from their past that can never and perhaps should never forgive them. But you took that and used it as proof that people were all the same.
You start from scratch. Clean slate, both sides. Talk to your family. Go back with what we've said. Tell them that these are the reasons many are wary of your family. Talk about it. And then see what follows