Ruby
Perhaps try not to be displeased but to understand. He is shaken beyond what we can imagine. If some of his choices are odd isn't he allowed that?
Why does it have to be to anyone else's schedule? If his return is not how you envisioned does it matter if it soothes him?
There is an edge to him, a sharpness. Perhaps time and support will set it right.
Right now he is not the family man. He is the broken man. He cannot simply take up the place he had before as if he never left.