Peter
That's a tough one, you know. And I guess it depends on the situation. My mother wasn't acting like my mother. You know this as well as anyone. And it was annoying and hateful and I wanted to scream and blame the world and sometimes I still think the Seal sent some weird alternate version of her because of how unlike her she was.
But I do know she was mostly happy because of the changes and sometimes I felt like a bad person resenting her for that.
You've a right to be angry. I don't think you've a right to take it out on that person.