I know my sister thinks highly of both of you, but at this moment in time I cannot see why that is so.
You both were unnecessarily unkind and rather rude to Ginger when all she offered was to have a drink with you when that is what your whole post states you want. And from her previous one it obvious that she is hurting in some way and you probably made that hurt much worse.
We're all in this fight together and I don't think its necessary to bite off someone's head when all they've done is offer to help you with how you wished to be helped.