If one party is more invested in it than the other, that is when problems arise, even if the uninterested party acts as though they care. That will only cause dissonance and conflict as well as misunderstandings. After any betrayal or loss of common ground, things will never remain for the knowledge of what can happen or what caused it will remain. But if it is something which can be learned from, it can be an important change. And that makes sense given all that had happened. Nor is it all that surprising that it became more than you realized just because of the timing and the reasoning behind it. No matter the pain we suffer, it is part of us, without it, we would be someone else entirely.