Actually, you're the one starting something that doesn't need to be started. This had nothing to do with you. As Lydia oh-so-haughtily pointed out, she's 21, she's an adult, she's perfectlly capable of handling herself. Or isn't she? Do you fancy yourself her keeper? Because that's what it seems like, considering you felt such an intense need to step into something that didn't concern you, rather than letting her take care of it herself.