Peter. Calm down and take a breath and step away from the computer. You insulted his wife, yes he will get involved.
There are a lot of factors involved here and unless everyone can talk about it rationally, nothing will come of it. The idea is good, but there are more factors at play and getting upset and reading into concerns that people have will not make it any better. In fact, it will lead to yet another fight on one of your posts and from my count, this is what, the third in a week? You say he is the one raring for a fight, but you keep pushing things and so fights occur.
So I repeat. Take a breath, calm down and step away from the computer if you are getting this upset.