Whoa, she starts it every single time. I don't go out of my way to insult her, I react to her. I'm not going to be sunshine and daises when she's calling me a skank, weither or not it's true or how I present myself.
And no, I really don't care if 'she started it' is a kindergarten term, especially when there is validity to it.
Yes, I inadvertently insulted her during the robin discussing and then teased her after wards about it, within that same conversation. I did not mean to hurt her feelings by stating an opinion, and was trying to make it better by joking about it. It failed and I would apologize for those words, but not when she goes out of her way to put me down and make me feel like shit.