Phoebe Halliwell ☼ Charmed for Life (thirdcharmed) wrote in wariscomingcom, @ 2012-05-04 23:04:00 |
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Dear Phoebe,
I've spent the last several months in an intimate relationship with a woman who most people would say is 'bad for me'. I've also been pretty burnt in the past by a relationship with a similar woman. These factors combined have led me to keep this current relationship on a purely physical level.
My head's okay with that. The problem is getting my heart to understand that, too. I've fallen and hard and I'm scared to death to do anything about it.
Any ideas?
Sincerely,
Where Have All The Good Girls Gone?
Dear WHATGGG,
First off, the fact that you’ve been in this relationship for several months and that you’ve fallen for her is a good sign. It means that despite others saying she’s “bad” for you, then maybe there are some redeemable qualities there, or she wouldn’t have stuck around so long. Do you know how she feels about you? See if you can find out. Often the “bad” girls tend to play their emotions close to the heart, and it may take a lot for them to open up. They’re usually considered “bad” by others because they’ve been hurt in the past as well, and are now simply tougher nuts to crack. See if that’s the case. Talk to her and find out how she feels, but don’t judge her, and don’t hide how you feel. It might scare her if she doesn’t feel that way, too, but the fact that you’re willing to open up may turn her away from her “bad” ways.
Best of luck!
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