I can't help you with the spending more time thing. I've got a job, a career, two kids, two dogs, a cat, and a horse. I'm honestly surprised I know what time even is. But maybe you can find something to help you with that. I remember I had a planner in college I mostly used to know the dates of projects and exams, but you could use it to figure out when you've got time to squeeze in time with friends.