Even when my Mom was trying her best to push me into the classes she wanted and the extracurriculars she never got to do as a kid, in her mind she thought she was doing it for my happiness. Your Dad ...that isn't even an afterthought for him at all, is it? Let alone a reasoning.
So money in place of a personality. I wish her luck in the real world when she finds out most people need more than that from people.