This is going to sound harsh- I don’t know you. Talking about why this entire concept frustrates and horrified me requires a foundation of trust between me and the person I’m talking to. And, I’m sorry, but one conversation over an electronic medium doesn’t build that level of trust.
I don’t have anyone in my life that meets that criteria and that’s part of the problem- just saying we’re close in some other universe does mean we are- it doesn’t mean anything but words