Erestor is an obsessive-compulsive know-it-all! (_erestor_) wrote in valarnet,
Everything has consequences. It was highly likely that before now, you were oblivious to them either due to neglect in noticing on purpose, or neglectful out of ignorance because you were simply too preoccupied to see beyond the tip of your own nose and notice anything or anyone else.
It does seem to be true, as far as I can tell, that you do lack some empathy in whatever capacity. I might humbly suggest that next time a situation like this should arise, you stop and ask yourself why you feel compelled to do or say that which would lash out at something or someone else, in a hurtful or slanderous manner. I think it's more of a poor reflection of some aspect of yourself, something that you might be dissatisfied with within you, that's causing you to act in such a churlish manner unto others.
In summary, I think you can and should make an effort. I think anyone can, if they have enough desire to change things, are willing to devote time to remedying the situation, and have the will to see it through.
Think on it further and - after some serious consideration - an answer should become apparent.