Mmm. I think they both realized I'm stubborn and if they tried to push me into something I'd go the opposite way, largely just out of spite. And now I've got a kid who is so much like me in that area that it gives her grandparents endless entertainment.
Oh, I was kidding. If the spark isn't there, it isn't there. Nothing wrong with that. But I do think there is something to the idea that you'll find someone when you aren't really looking.