Oh no, I understand that. And I definitely think if I were to have another child that I'd take that route, but sometimes I feel that some people (not you) believe or even expect that a child that isn't planned is an accident or a mistake. And that's just not the case, not for me. Lily's the best thing I've ever done in my life, you know?
But I do agree, there are lots of people out there who don't handle the news of becoming parents very well. Lily's dad would be one of them. It's unfortunate, because he's missing out on one great kid, but it was his choice to make. I don't particularly like it because I know one day it's going to hurt my daughter, but on some level I have to respect that he knew when he needed to bow out.