You don't. I could say 'hey let's go to a park' and you'll just wear a suit without a tie for 'casual.' You snob.
Oh, phew. I mean, this is your thing too so whatever you want we can work into it. I just remember reaaally early on in the dreams I got convinced (there was a lot of gold involved, okay, stop judging me) to marry a guy and everything was just awkward and too public. I blew up the castle before it was all finalized, and I felt a lot better.