My father was an apostate. He kept Bethany and I out of the circle, in these blasted dreams, and I'm relieved to have a mother who agreed. It's a bit of a personal matter considering I can get locked up or even killed at any point just because I refuse to let others decide what's best for me - and the magic they continuously fail to understand.
And it would all depend how you would define 'control,' mate. All form of power corrupts.