For better or worse, we are our own persons here so dynamics will undoubtedly change even if it would be nice for that sort of relationship to occur. Nothing is set in stone, so hopefully things will get better at some point.
[Lydia] He was. In the Dreams he manipulated me to believe he was sent by my father to teach me. An Angel of Music. He then stalked me and killed people. I was given a choice near the end, both which would lead to death. If I chose him, I would end up killing the person I loved. If I chose the person I loved, I could go with him, but the entire Opera Populaire, as well as most of the city around it would be blown up.
He seemed very nice here and I wouldn't wish the pain he suffered in the dreams on him, for his past was undoubtedly painful to have led to such things and no one should suffer that. Though I fear part of me would also worry despite knowing that things are different here.
It seems if he were here, we would be in the same place. I'm sorry you have to deal with that confliction.