Okay first of all, just because I could be some ex-wife doesn't mean I'd need to kidnap her. That's just wrong. Second, you don't. But then I don't know you either. I know my boyfriend, and that's his kid. And I don't know that you aren't going to hurt her because I don't know you from Adam. You can ask her though if she'd rather stay with you or me. Or who I am, or any of that stuff. She is a person, she has feelings and can answer for herself.