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I'm sure just being there for her helps. Doing the right thing by her will help, too. Finding better therapy for her is a step in the right direction. And intervention of some kind might help, too.
Yeah, I was way more than a recreational drinker. You look back on your life and realise how much you let alcohol influence it. Even when it wasn't completely ruining my life I was drinking at breakfast and through the day, pretty much.
It's safer. Seeking revenge is no way to go into a fight.