And I can see why you could call what the Jedi do "manipulative" as well, though it has a much more peaceful and, I can't believe I'm about to use this word, harmonious outcome than the way the Sith try to manipulate. ...I'm still not sure I'd call the Jedi teachings manipulative, though I haven't been in training all that long. Like you said, loving friends is a passion, and a good one, but I don't see the Jedi twisting or even using that like the Sith do.