Dude, you don't mess up, you move on. You can't mess up something there ain't any rules for, except your own that you decide, and if you mess those up, either you chose to make up rules you couldn't follow or you chose not to follow them and either way it's entirely within your ability to change that, you know?
Whatever, you've got family here, you just haven't met them yet, that's all.
Anyway. I'm Miniver. If you like... need somewhere to stay or someone to talk to or something, my number is [phone number].