"I'm not surprised you didn't. Probably not surprising that I've only done it twice in the years I've had to do it."
"Yeah... that'd be really rough for the three of you, huh? It's probably polite to still offer the invite, in case he actually wants to, but let him know you understand if he says no?"
He grins and downs the last bit of his coffee. "Don't know! I haven't been thinking about details yet besides 'have it' and 'invite loved ones!' I never thought you'd actually get to be there. And before you ask-- he wore a fantastic suit and I wore a tux, so I think we might do that again."