An anonymous user wrote
on February 25th, 2008 at 07:56 am

Yes, in some D/S relationships, there is no safeword. That's negotiated before hand and understood. Sometimes, when you're bound and, say, gagged, you can't use a safeword; there can be other ways to 'safe word', like a signal or a specific kind of movement, or the understanding that there's no safeword. All of these things are negotiated before hand. I was also commenting in the vein of your fic, where the couple had agreed upon a safe word and the implications of that world.

But if there IS a safeword, then you cannot ignore it. The play started, obviously Rodney thought the safe word would stop it. It doesn't matter if John knew Rodney hadn't reached his limits, he still said it. It also doesn't matter that it went beyond a BDSM for sex thing, that John was trying to prove a real life point. Ignoring a safe word for whatever reason is unsafe and unconscionable. It doesn't matter what John's goal was, or what he was trying to accomplish. The safeword is never irrelevant.

I can understand what you were trying to do, but to just blatantly ignore the safe word just...I can't get over that. I understand that it's your world and you can have it play out as you want, but still, as someone who has been and is a part of that world, I can't get over that. Even if the outcome is positive or productive.

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