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I'm no fan of Dumbledore, and I do think he at least subconsciously 'groomed' Harry to be loyal to him and unquestioning of his decisions, but I agree that the pedophile analogy goes a bit too far.

RE Lily: I think part of the difficulty that can crop up here sometimes (RE Lily and also many other things) is that in the books JKR veers back and forth between a cartoonish tone (especially in the early books, but also a bit in the later ones) and a gritty 'realist' tone. So what works within a certain tone becomes jarring within the context of the work as a whole to some readers. The letter might be one of these instances. Also, I could sort of see it being one of those things that you laugh a little about after the fact, but during the fact is certainly worrisome. I don't think it was the *best* parenting attitude, but it's not exactly Dursley-level negligence either. It's the attitude of young inexperienced parents who are sincere in their love but who IMHO still haven't got the responsibility aspect down perfectly.