Lois didn't agree to have sex with her nerdy co-worker she doesn't like that much. She was consenting to sex with someone else, the tall studly guy with the red cape. But that's okay?
The reader knows Clark's a decent guy and we know the Chameleon isn't, but if that's the only difference, then consent isn't coming into it is it? "Chameleon and Peter Parker *aren't* the same person" -- well, Lois thought Clark and Kal weren't the same person.
Same idea. I mean hell, wouldn't some of Bond's conquests offered a different decision knowing the disturbing high mortality rate his girlfriends tend to have, and the enemies his interesting day job tends to attract?
"The women he sleeps with have consented to sleeping with the person they're with."
Except he chose not to mention some reasonably important information that will, in all likelihood, cause very bad things to happen. How many times has he slept with someone who didn't know about the 007 thing, and he then had to rescue them? Again, for them to have "informed" consent, shouldn't he have mentioned that in passing? But he didn't.