If lying to get sex counted as rape, all those women Bond *didn't* tell that he was a secret agent -- would that make him one of the greatest serial rapists in the history of fiction? You're talking dozens of women here.
It's why I'm having trouble agreeing with "lying to get a woman in bed" should be just out-and-out rape. Because there's just too much wild interpretations to go along with it. Gaining sex through dishonesty is still morally abhorrent, but the James Bond thing is a good point. When is it rape and when it just a guy being a jerk?