1. By virtue of being white and male, you automatically have privilege in both areas (as do I, as a fellow white male).
2. By virtue of not acknowledging the full scope of your privilege on those counts, you are entitled.
3. Because you see fit to get into debates on hotly contested gender-based moral and legal issues, that are extremely impacted by current events, armed only with a dictionary written 40 years ago by white men, you are showing that you do not acknowledge the full scope of your privilege on those counts.
You want your apology to mean something to me? Tell me that you will never cite "Oxford" as an argument-closer, not just for RAPE, but for ANY such issue, EVER AGAIN. Tell me that you will not enter into legal, political, social or moral debates without DOING SOME HOMEWORK, even if that homework merely involves a FIVE-SECOND GOOGLE SEARCH on the issue. THAT is the only way your apology with MEAN anything, because otherwise, you're just saying you're sorry to SHUT ME UP, and your UNDERLYING MENTALITY hasn't changed a bit.