I disagree. The Spectre I know would most definitely punish you if you were being selfish and stupid, did something dangerous, and got someone killed. He can be that much of a dick. The Spectre forced Crispus Allen to kill his own son. The Spectre is an unmitigated bastard.
There's no way in hell Jean meant to kill Sue. Her crime was basically "negligent homicide" and that's enough in the Spectre's book.