Let's compare situations pre-BND
Daredevil - Living in Hell's Kitchen, in love with a crazed undead ninja and/or a recovering drug addict/porn star who only sold his secret identity for crack money and/or a woman he married during a 'lost year' and/or the Black Widow... and when someone named THE BLACK WIDOW is your best life partner choice, you know you done fucked up. Also has become the very thing he hates, possibly more than once.
Spider-Man - Living rent-free in a high-rise, serving with the top professionals in his field, married to a supermodel, doing a job he loves.
Clearly, Peter, you should be taking a cue from Matt here.